I’ve been thinking about all the things I’m thankful for and watching my friends and family lately. Talking to them on the phone. Learning about their lives as time rolls on and finding out what is important to them. It’s made me think about what is important to me and has me thinking about my goals for the future. The New Year will soon be upon us and, as we all typically do, a list will get made of resolutions. As quickly as it’s made, it is forgotten. I propose a challenge for us all, to do something different this year. Let’s turn our gratitude list into our goal list. Let’s create a bucket list for one year only.
This may sound sort of strange at first and I haven’t carved the whole thing out yet but let me start by sharing a little story with you. A few years back my sister and I asked our mother to create her bucket list. Her response was of course, “Girls, I’m not dying! I’m not even sick!” We laughed and agreed. Our mother couldn’t be in better health. In fact she will probably out live all of us. We corrected her and pointed out that the fun part of a bucket list is doing the things you’ve always wanted to do while you can actually do them, NOT when you are past your prime and wish you had the strength or energy. She thought about it and at first her list was small. We went to a painting class, then a hockey game. Her list grew as the ideas came to her of things she had never done but wanted to do or sounded like fun to try. My sister and I have had so much fun helping our mom to tick things off her bucket list one by one and her list has grown just as quickly as we knock items off. That is the fun of it, never finding the bottom, but always finding new adventures together. We have since gone to her first concert, gone zip-lining, taken a Segway tour around a quaint town we had never visited before. Just this past summer we were able to enjoy a cruise to Mexico with our mom. It was the first time our mom had ever been on a cruise and she loved it. The best part; it was just the three of us, my mother, my sister and myself. It had been so long since the three of us had taken a trip that I’m not sure if it was the destination, the method of the destination or the company that made the trip absolutely perfect and a memory for a lifetime. The point of this short story about my mom is that by asking her to make a bucket list, my sister and I have been able to share experiences with her that we never knew she had wanted. These experiences are now beautiful memories for us all. Now, each time I miss my mom I send her a note and ask what our next adventure will be. For Christmas, my sister and I get a hand-made gift certificate from her good for one day to do whatever we want, a date with our mom. That may sound trivial, but in a large family whom all have very busy lives and live across several cities, this is one of the most beautiful gifts I get each year and I look forward to it each year.
Circling back to the point of this blog if I haven’t lost you yet, I would like to take this time to think of all the things we are grateful for. If you have small children in your life I’m sure they are bringing home crafts from school with little turkeys and feathers indicating all they are grateful for. If you have older ones, take your next meal and make this a topic of discussion. Learn about each other. From there take a few days to think about it and begin to think how you can take what your family is grateful for and turn that list into a bucket list for next year. If your family is grateful for “family” than take a family trip or maybe one day trip a month to somewhere new; A trip on a tankful. If your little one is grateful for breakfast (there are always funny things they are grateful for), thank take that to heart and have your little one cook breakfast once a month on a weekend or maybe go out to breakfast once a month to a new restaurant or a special place. The point is to turn your gratitude list into goals or a bucket list for the next year and embrace what your family feels is important. Have fun with it and include them in the decisions for your list.
The experiences my sister and I have had with our mom have been priceless and each year we learn more about her; what her likes and dislikes are, what her dreams are and what she is looking forward to. It was not until I was older that I have learned to appreciate these qualities in another person. They are what make up their whole person and what make them special. Take time as you are learning about what your family and friends are grateful for this season to step back and really see what makes them special. What are their wants, their fears, theirs hopes and dreams? Can you help them accomplish them and in turn be a part of their memories and them be a part of yours? Enjoy this beautiful season and enjoy your family and friends. As always, have a happy day.