The Power of Positivity

I’m not going to lie… it is not easy to ALWAYS be positive. Things happen, life happens, and it isn’t always pleasant. This conversation is not about ALWAYS be positive, it is instead about intending to always be positive and absorbing others positivity when you lack in that area.

“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.”
― Oprah Winfrey

Could not have said it better myself! There is an old saying that I sure we all know, “Stop and Smell the Roses.” I truly believe these tow quotes go hand in hand. Do I have a million dollars? Nope. Am I able to earn a living and able to work hard to pay my bills? Yes. And I am grateful.

Gratitude and positivity are the cousins of happiness. If I am happy and maintaining a positive outlook on life, then I am able to manifest the good in life. If I am negative and focused on the bad things that are happening or have happened, then I am missing out on what is right in front of me. I am looking on the rear-view mirror and not through the windshield of life.

There are folks out there whose first instinct is sarcasm or possibly to comment on the negative. These people, if given the opportunity can affect how we think and feel about situations and activities. When we were kids and we were so excited about maybe a boy we liked, or a grade we got, or an upcoming activity; if there was a “cool kid” that thought differently, did we let their opinion sway ours? Did you wear a beautiful new dress to school one day and maybe a girl commented on the fit not being just right and you suddenly felt less beautiful. Imagine if those same comments were reversed and you were encouraged by those you admired. Would that change your feelings? Of Course. It would hype you up and you would feel even better than you already did. THIS is the power of positivity and transversely the power of negative thinking.

Now, think of your current life and current situations. Are you that mean girl always commenting on the negative or possibly thinking you are politely playing devil’s advocate or are you the one hyping up your friends and even strangers, encouraging them to be the best they can. Are you the one saying, “do better” or are you saying, “I know you can do, keep going”. Those statement can have the same intent but be felt so differently on the receiving end.

Just one small positive thought in the morning can change your whole day.

Dalai Lama

So, the question is, how do you radiate positivity without feeling like you are walking on eggshells with what you say and do. Easy! Confidence, good self-esteem, self-care and compassion. It’s the recipe for happiness in any and all situations.

Bad things happen, there is no doubt in that. How we react to them is what matters. Not the bad thing itself.

“It will never rain roses: when we want to have more roses, we must plant more roses.”
― George Eliot

It will in fact always rain sometime…. It is what we do with that rain. Here are my thoughts on what to do with the negative:

Share your story, but don’t focus on the bad, focus on your climb upward from that moment. That is where the positive is.
Seak out “Moments” and embrace them. If it is raining, then be glad you don’t have to water the lawn. You are saving money and the work to do so. If you are running late to work, let’s be honest… you are already late. Take a breath and do a little self-talk to be grateful for your job and the ability to do it, then charge on.
Plant the roses: Share a compliment, hold a door, smile at a stranger, say please and thank you for any service rendered to you. These tiny little actions can plant a rose in someone else’s garden. This allows you to have more roses everywhere you go, not just keep them to yourself.

Positivity breeds positivity and we don’t share it, it won’t grow.

“Keep your thoughts positive because your thought become YOUR WORDS.
Keep your words positive because your words become YOUR BEHAVIOR
Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes YOUR HABITS
Keep your habits positive because your habits become YOUR VALUES
Keep your values positive because your values become YOUR DESTINY”

― Mahatma Gandhi

February 16, 2023 0

Continuing Education – finding time is easier than you think

This blog is to all of the busy people out there that are entrenched in their day to day and think they have NO TIME left to continue to learn as they grow and age. Well, you are wrong. And I say this because I was one of those people for so long until I decided to join the masses and start listening to “Books on tape”. Yes, I know that the word tape is null and void at this point, but I’m an old lady so hang in there with me and allow me to use “old terms” now and again.

At work, the leadership team was challenged to read a book to begin a new process of leadership and management to allow the company I work for to go to the next level, leaving the plateau we have hit in the dust. Now, I love to read but reading for work and a business book at that, hard pass. I just don’t have the time. Nevertheless, it was a requirement so the time I would find.

I have many friends that listen to books on tape. As they exercise, walk the dog, etc. Now as a wife, grandma and mom, these times are usually accompanied with a spouse, kid or grandkid chatting it up about their day or the latest issue in their lives and I am not willing to give up these precious moments. Reading in my spare time, is an activity I love but to be honest, I like to hold the book, physically turn the pages and do this in my pajamas under a blanket with a cup of coffee. So how do I read this book and how does this relate to continuing education?

I subscribed to audible. It’s a program with amazon and of all of the programs I checked out, this is the best and most affordable and allows me to a few options. With my subscription (which is incredibly reasonably priced), I get monthly credits to download books. I can add books to my wish list and I can keep them in my library. Ok, this may all sound very “normal” to the younger generation out there, but this is what I really want to share..

I was picking my grandson up from school one day and my “Book on tape” was playing thru the blue tooth connection in the car. He says to me, “Grandma what are you listening to?” I smiled and said this is my homework. To which he replied, “You don’t have homework, you don’t even go to school!”

Immediately a bell goes off in my head! What a teaching moment for my little guy!.

“Sweetheart, grandma is listening to this book for work. I want to keep moving up in my job and keep going further. To do that, I have to keep learning and growing. This is a book teaching me about leadership so I can help the others in my company grow as well.”

“Is it boring?” He asks.

I laughed and said, “Well, boring is a mindset. I am listening to this and as I am, I am thinking about how it applies to what I do and how I interact with people. So, no not so boring. Now if I was in a mindset of cooking your dinner, then this may be very distracting. Much like you and your schoolwork. It is hard to do your schoolwork when your friends are over, or you are watching a tv show. But if you are focused on what the schoolwork is, then you may find it easier to understand and it may “stick” in your brain better. So, as I was driving to pick you up, I chose to listen to this recording. I just left work and that mindset was fresh.”

To my surprise, he asked if he could listen to it on the rest of our trip home. I obliged. And yes, he talked thru the whole thing.

My point here is that if you commute, if you take a lunch break, or even if you take shorter breaks during the day, these are all prime opportunities to grow and learn that do not take away from our busy life. You may even find it refreshing.

Below is a link to get you started and a few book titles I have found interesting. Enjoy and keep learning!

Books to check out:

Traction: Get a Grip on your Business
Good to Great
The 6-Minute Workday: An Entrepreneur’s Guide to Using the Power of Leverage…

Audible

As always, have a happy day! ~Mrs. Go To Girl

January 5, 2023 0

A pet to raise your child

If you have a kid, you need a pet. Now I know that is a statement that seems direct. Who am I to tell you to get a pet? Well, let me share with you why I feel so strongly about this. As a child, we had a cat. I am not a cat person as an adult, but I do recall fond memories of our cat as a child. We also had a dog in my teenage years. On both occasions, the animals were cared for by my parents, but there were times that pet care was a chore assigned to my sister and I. As an adult, I see why these chores were assigned from time to time, but never my permanent chore. (and I also see why it was not my full time responsibility)

Reason 1: Caring for others

Teaching kids to care for others is a process. They need to see it, do it and learn what happens when you don’t do it. That means they need to walk dogs, feed cats and play with them. As we all know, the consequences of not doing these are accidents on the floor, crying from the pet or even chewing up things we don’t want chewed in an effort to seek attention. Sounds a lot like a kid right? The point is; their little minds don’t see us as mommies and daddies doing this for our children. From the moment they are born, we are wiping butts, feeding crying babies and entertaining them as they grow into little people. Having a pet takes each of these actions and applies them to an unbiased party.

Reason 2: Sharing

Kids, especially first born or only children need to learn to share. Even prior to daycare or VPK, there is an opportunity to teach this by moms and dads giving affection to pets. Doesn’t sound like a big deal, but when first done, you may find your little one crawling into our lap or doing something to turn your attention back to them. This is natural but dividing your attention between a pet and a child shows them without causing any harm, that you can have affections toward others in addition to loving them. Please do not misunderstand, I am by no means suggesting you neglect a child or care for a pet instead of a child. This is simply an example of a lesson a child can learn almost subliminally.

Reason 3: Comfort

Kids need to be able to count on and confide in a buddy. Aside from their parents or maybe a sibling, a pet is the next immediate resource for small kids. In many cases, animals adopt a protective bond over small children, often providing comfort and a calmness to little ones. As a child grows, so will this bond. If you have ever had a childhood pet, I’m sure there was a time or two that you confided in your four-legged best friend. Shared your deepest secrets or feelings. By doing that it taught you the meaning of friendship and loyalty. Pets are nothing if not loyal.

Reason 4: Death

As much as I hate to say it, the death of a pet as a result of an illness or old age is often one of the first times children will experience death. This helps them to learn about the natural expiration date we all have. It also helps them to learn to value memories. By experiencing the loss of a family pet it gives you an opportunity to teach your children about the circle of life (in whichever religion you believe). It gives you an opportunity to show them how to mourn but also how to celebrate the memories.

I am not a parenting expert, nor do I claim to be an expert in anything, but I have lived a solid, experience-filled life and feel as though our experiences (good and bad) can be passed on in a positive light to the next generation. As your family decides on a pet in the future or maybe you already have a pet, but are now adding a child to the mix, I hope this little blog on the topic of family pets is helpful.

As always – Have a Happy day ~Mrs Go to girl

December 28, 2022 0

The days following a celebration

Here we are and it is three days past Christmas. We have spent at least a month gearing up for the holiday celebration. Buying and wrapping gifts, planning get togethers and meals with friends and loved ones and then the big day is here! The same happens for a wedding (only slightly delayed taking into consideration the honeymoon). The days after everything “gets back to normal” can be draining.

As I sit here today, back at work and engaging with co-workers and clients alike, I find myself in a whirlwind of emotion. The day or two returning from a celebration are filled with recanted conversations of how the holiday or celebration was spent, who attended, what gifts were exchanged, etc. But then there is day three. Day three brings back the “normal” and I can’t help but find myself a bit out of sorts. Almost physically tired from the excitement of the previous days and even month, here I sit in a bit of a fog.

I think day three is the adjustment period. The time when the excited conversations stop, the day to day work and chores filter into a steady pace and the emotion I find myself feeling is “blah”. Don’t get me wrong, I am very happy and had a great holiday season, but I am noticing the office is quieter now than the previous days and week. The moods are a bit more chill but yet still focused. Though this is not at all a bad day it does beg the question “where did the joy go?” Where is the merriment?

In life we have good days and bad days, but to make a good or bad day there is usually an event or thing that causes the good and the bad. I have always said we should appreciate the bad days for without them there would be no good ones. But here we are in a day like today… no good or bad to be had. Just a day.

In writing this, I think I have decided these “blah” days of no agenda and nothing exciting to do but the normal occurring should also be considered “good days”. These are the days we allow ourselves to catch our breath from the roller coaster ride of life. These moments we find ourselves in that may sometimes feel awkward simply because nothing is making the day good or bad, are the worlds way of saying, be still. There is a twist coming, you should rest and prepare. Prepare for a high or a low, prepare for joy or sadness, but in this moment, be still. Your roller coaster ride of life is gearing up for another adventure.

And with that, I am still.

Have a Happy Day ~ Mrs. Go To Girl

December 28, 2022 0

Life on a Budget…

Many times in my many years I have had to live by a stricter budget than I would have liked. It took me a while to change my perspective on tightening my belt to make the bills and still live an adventurous life. For so long, it felt similar to a diet. If you are anything like me when it comes to dieting, you adhere to it for about two days, then spend two days being resentful and then you fall off the wagon. Funny how both budgets and diets sound like swear words to me. I’ve lived much of my life on the edge of one of the things that set me off in the wrong direction quickly, is anything restrictive or seeming to feel claustrophobic.

Once I figured out that I was feeling this way, it was time to change my mindset, but how? Here are the facts:

There is only so much time in a day
There is only so much income coming in

So all of the above considered, how do I turn this struggle into an opportunity for adventure? Well, it does take some creativity, but more so it takes a complete change in your thought process. Now, I share this with you not as an expert, but as a lady who has lived a bit under many circumstances and learned a few things along the way. I have friends that are well off. I have friends that are single moms and work their tails off to provide. I have friends that have done well and then fallen on hard times and friends that have come into money unexpectedly. I have watched and even experienced a bit of these myself, and above all have learned it is an attitude and mindset that lets us all get thru to the finish line.

So, back to the idea of making this into an adventure and even a challenge. A competition with myself if you will. I have a goal in mind and I want to reach it. So that goal needs to be the finish line. I need to work back from there. What items do I need with me at the finish line? Money? Stuff? People? All of these things need to play into my plan to get to the finish line and be winning. For this particular goal, I need to have a bit of extra cash in reserves at the finish line. So, I need to add that to my goal and then work backwards If I were to add stuff or people, then I would need to calculate the costs of those in as well.

Now that I have my finish line marked, I need to add a time frame to it. Without a time frame, is it really a race to the finish and how will we know if we have reached our goal. I will set mine at 30 days. It is aggressive for this particular goal, but I am motivated. That brings me to my next subject; motivation. There has to be a reason for the goal or you will lose your inspiration quickly. (Like the diet analogy and falling off the wagon). The motivator has to be big enough, intense enough, to not fade during the race to the finish line. Mine is a lifestyle change at the end of the 30 days. One I have dreamt of for many years. It is close enough now that I can actually see myself living in this new way. No wavering here.

Ok, we have a goal, set a timeframe, and have determined we have a strong motivator…. now what? Well, this is where the rubber meets the road. I’ve got to take a hard look at the steps I need to take to get there. The long jumps, the hops, and even the baby steps and ensure they are in the correct order to be successful. Since this is a money goal, it has to do with income, bills due and the extras needed to get all the way across the line. This part takes a bit of time. It requires number crunching, applying dates and amounts to each item along the way. This also requires thinking on a micro level. In my case, how much do I anticipate spending on gas, groceries, and any other things that take away from the bottom line. Manicures! I almost forgot. This is not a need, but something I do for myself every two weeks. Yep, into the budget that goes as well.

It does help to take a historic look at your bank account. Have you ever really looked at all the times your so easily swipe that little plastic card. Have you ever added up all the funds spent at starbucks or McDonalds? After I did, I realized it was a lot of fish-filet sandwiches and maybe I should change my eating habits! YIKES! Ok, I digress. The point here is to bring to the surface the reality of your spending. Now take pause here to do a reality check. This historical look at your spending it not meant to get you down in the dumps. It is meant to just bring you into the realization of what your day to day really is. There will be no time here to pause for longer than needed. There is no time here for poor babies or sad faces about reckless spending. This is where you really jump in and roll around in those thoughts for a while, but then dust yourself off and be sure not to lose focus. Afterall we are facing forward not back.
A LITTLE self-analysis is never a bad thing.

Ok, back to the task at hand. I’ve now got my path set…

Goal, what my end result needs to be to turn the page to the next chapter
Timeframe starting now and taking me all the way to the finish line
Motivator, what it is that will keep me inspired to stay focused on the task at hand
Budget plan with times / dates of each item to be paid along the way.

It’s go time! Now, lets put the plan into action. For some a daily journal helps. For some, a checklist of things to do each day or week helps. For me, I need a spreadsheet and to check it daily. I have also found a few tricks that will help me. I am one of those people that is quick to shop on line or swipe my little plastic card without thinking. To prevent these things from derailing me from reaching my goal, I need bumpers up. What are bumpers? Well if you have ever taken a child bowling, you are familiar. These are the guards on either side of the lane that help the ball roll down the center rather than falling off into a gutter. In my case, the gutter is on-line shopping and easy swipes of a credit card. So what will my bumpers be?

Use cash. Since I have estimated my grocery and gas spending, simply take those amounts out of the bank and keep them handy. This puts a rule into place of no more swiping that card unless NEEDED.
Delete the auto filled passwords on my on-line accounts. I can write them down and put them into the safe so I don’t forget them (because I will). This puts a little stop in between my shopping and the check out process. This should be enough to give me the opportunity to pause and think about what I am doing.

Now I have all the things in place. By doing the above, I have also found confidence and the feeling that my goal is attainable. But there is one more thing, and probably the most important. It’s is the ability to turn this plan into an adventure. If this goal is attainable but not fun, will I really stick to it? If I am honest, the answer is no. So how do we add a little fun into it? Here are a few of my ideas…

Cash back apps. There are a million out there! I personally use “get upside”, “rakuten”, and “coinout” but there really are so many to choose from.
Memberships! There are so many loyalty programs out there. Making your money work for you can be fun AND rewarding
Piggy banks. Yep, an old fashioned piggy bank. It is rewarding to see the piles of change add up and then there is a little fun for a rainy day. I personally have always had a piggy bank and from time to time have cracked it open for a fun day.
Creative meal planning. There are do many ways to save money with a little creative cooking. Take a look in your pantry and have fun with some recipes that may not be traditional, but they do help to clear out the pantry and freezer and even maybe spark your creative side.

I hope this helps someone else as I know it has helped me to organize my thoughts and really formulate my plan for the next thirty days. If you are out there planning a budget, tightening belts or just having to cut back, I wish you the best of luck. Many times circumstances are not as we would hope, but that doesn’t mean it is a dismal time. It simply provides us an opportunity to turn things around and add a little fun challenge to life.

This may not sound like an adventure in the traditional sense, but with all of the above combined, it will consume your time and energy and you will soon find yourself immersed into the goal of charging forward and even find yourself new ways to cut corners. Maybe even include your friends in the journey, after all, a family style meal is more fun than dining alone. Maybe a potluck meal? Also, shopping together for groceries is certainly more fun than doing it alone. Maybe make it a community effort and all the while focusing on your cost savings to reach your end goal. Also, at the finish line… smash that piggy bank and do something unplanned and fun! Afterall, you deserve it!

September 29, 2022 0

Brunch… a fun time to be a little “Extra”

Ever go to brunch with friends a feel like your cheating a little and feel good about it. Like maybe you slept in when you would have gotten up early all the other days of the week. Or maybe skipped breakfast so you could endulge in food that your wouldn’t normally eat but it taste simply delicious. I’ve always thought that having brunch is a chance for me to be a bit “extra” and feel great with friends or family. Take a little extra time for my meal, order a little something different and either entertain or be entertained with food, decor, and overall atmosphere.

I wanted to take a moment and share some easy and fun recipes and ideas that you can do at home if felt like hosting a brunch yourself. Fall is upon us, the weather is changing and this is a great opportunity to set up your sun room or open the windows and turn on those fans to let the air flow nicely through your home. Invite some guests over in the late morning. Set a little light jazz or easy listening in the background. Be sure to either light a fresh scented candle or diffuse some essential oils throughout to have a pleasing aroma in your home as well.

Now for the recipe ideas… I love appetizer size portions personally. You can make plenty and it offers a variety to meet the taste preferences of all your guests. My easy suggestions are as follows:

Individual sized fruit and yogurt parfait – These can be super fun to do. Pop by any party store and get small (dessert serving sized) clear dishes. A layer of vanilla yogurt, a layer of strawberries (sliced and fresh), some granola and repeat. drizzle with a bit of honey if you prefer. You can make several flavors by changing the fruit and/or yogurt flavors. This allows for several options. (Peach, Blueberry, Pineapples, etc.)

Muffin Tin Omelettes – These are a cinch to make and again, can have a variety of flavors. Spray your muffin tin with cooking spray, preheat your oven, and get busy with your creations. Ham, cheese, peppers the sky is the limit. One egg per muffin cup. Scramble the egg prior to pouring into the cup and mixture. I highly suggest avoiding adding onions to your omelettes when inviting guests to your social gathering. Onions often times upset sensitive stomachs and can cause people to be concerned about poor breath following a meal.

Biscuits and Jelly – This is a staple! you can serve croissants or muffins or even cornbread, but some type of bread is a must. If you have the time and want to make several bread options that is always fun as well. I like to have various types of jelly available along with butter of course.

Drinks! What brunch is complete without a good beverage. Mimosas are always the go-to for brunches. Depending on what time of year you are hosting your brunch, try to make your drink of choice seasonal. Of course, Coffee, Tea (Both hot and cold for brunch is desirable) and water should be made available.

These are all fun ideas and suggestions. There are so many more out there. Do a little research and plan according to the size of your guest list. The point is, have a veggie (the parfait), have a bread item (it’s breakfast after all), and have a protein (the omelette). Make sure there is variety. Remember to incorporate appropriate serving dishes, place settings and centerpieces that will help facilitate the theme and feel of your brunch. The best ones I have been to use all of the senses to make the guests have the best experience. Sight (presentation), Sound (Music), Smell (essential oils or scented candles), Taste (well prepared food), and Touch (comfortable seating and well maintained temperature). Keep it light, fun and casual. The point of hosting this brunch in your home is so that you and your friends don’t have to “dress” for the occasion. In-home brunches with friends can be Sunday casual. No T-shirts and flip-flops are probably not ideal, but you can set the tone with your invite either verbal or written. The sky is the limit with your planning and preparations.

I hope you plan an amazing event. As the host of your event (vs attending) the satisfaction comes when you sit back once the event is in full swing and you see the smiles on your friends faces, hear the chatter of small talk, and hear the clanking of glasses and your friends toast to each other.

As always my friends, have a happy day (And enjoy your brunch and each other)

September 18, 2019 0

What to do with all the Easter candy?

What do you with all the left over Easter candy? Make fun treats of course! Make them and share them! Ask the kids or family and friends to join in! Then send the treats to school, to work, put them out when your kids friends come over on the weekend.

Have left over Halloween candy, incorporate that into your fun treats too! Here are a few examples of fun summer treats you can easily do and share for the next few weeks. Have fun and get creative!

Peep race cars!
Ingredients: Peeps, Twinkies, Chocolate covered pretzels (don’t forget, you can melt down some left over chocolates) and mini oreos.

Cut about a 1/4 inch out of the top back half of the twinkie. enough to rest a bunny peep sitting up into the twinkie as if to drive a car. Once you have created your chocolate cover pretzel, insert it upside down in front of the bunny as of to be a steering wheel. Separate your oreos and press to the side of the twinkie to create wheels. You may need to add a little water to help make the wheels stick. You a tad to create some moisture in the area. Please the twinkie on parchment paper or a well grease pan or tray for transporting or display.

Peeps in a nest!
Ingredients: Peeps, Rice Krispie Cereal, 48 Marshmallows (large), 4 TSP Butter, small Jelly Beans, Food Coloring, Shredded Coconut, Muffin Pan, Cooking spray.

Melt butter for 45 seconds in large microwave safe bowl. Add marshmallows. Coat all with the melted butter. Melt for 45 seconds in microwave. Stir, melt for 45 seconds. Ad food coloring to the Marshmallow mixture. (I preferred Green, but any color is fun to do.) Add 6 cups of Rice Krispies. Stir. Spray the muffin pan with cooking grease. Press each pan with rice Krispies and chill. These will create your nests. After 30 mins, remove the nests from the pan. On a plate, cover with parchment paper (or tin foil or a few paper towels) spread out your shredded coconut and cover with green food coloring and mix. This will be the grass for your nest. how much food coloring will determine how dark your grass will be so start slow, you can always add more. Add the grass to each nest, then press jelly beans to each nest. I used 4-5 beans for each nest to create the eggs for the nest. Add the bird peeps to the top and display on a greased plate, try or pan. As you can see I chose a pan for ease of transportation.

CandyBar Carmel Apple Dip!
Ingredients: 12 “Fun” Size Candy Bars. (Milky Way is preferred, but twix works well too as long as caramel is involved). Use 10 for chopping and using for the dip and 2 for freezing and cutting up for the garnish, 1/2 cup of butter, 1/2 tsp salt, 2 cups of brown sugar, 1 cup of light corn syrup, 1 can of sweetened condensed milk, 2 tsp vanilla extract, and apples.

Melt the butting in a saucepan. Add the brown sugar, corn syrup and salt, Cook over medium heart stirring occasionally. When the mixture comes to a full boil (10-12 mins). Cut up the apples into slices while this is happening. Stir in the sweetened condensed milk and the cut of candy bars. Continue stirring until candy is dissolved and the mixture is a thick consistency. Remove from heat, stir in the vanilla and transfer to serving bowl. Cut up the 2 previously frozen candy bars and use for garnish, sprinkle on top of the dip. Serve with the sliced apples.

April 23, 2019 0

Facing your past to better your future

OK friends, Our pasts are in our past for a reason, but I hate to break it to you…. sometimes it is very necessary to revisit them. Open the history books and re-read a few chapters to be able to digest it properly in order to charge forward. This is NOT always a bad thing. Hear me out.

This is my belief and you do not have to co-sign it or agree. As my dad always said pinions are like butt-holes (not exactly the word he used, but you get the idea). We all have them and they are worth exactly what you pay for them, which is nothing. So here is mine. Take it, or leave it.

First, imagine a car. There is a LARGE windshield and a MUCH smaller rear view mirror. Both are necessary for driving. I will agree, using the rear view mirror is optional, but it does help in many cases. The windshield is your future. The rear view mirror is your past. You always look forward through the windshield and you occasionally glance into the rear view mirror. YOU are the driver and you are the present. The here and now in your life. (WOW, what a metaphor).

Recently, I explored my past to deal with some issues that were holding me back with moving forward with my marriage and being there for my family. In doing so, I now have a much better relationship with my husband and I feel like I am able to be there for my children and grandchildren where I was previously more withdrawn personally (though they may not have been aware). I had not faced things that had occurred in my younger years. I simply swept them under the rug and kept charging forward with life pushing them and the memories attached to them “under the rug” hoping to pile more (and hopefully better) life memories on top of them. My friends, this does not always work. There are triggers in life that let the ugly memories of the past pop right back up.

As life moved on, Other situations have presented themselves. Other people have come into my life and shall remain nameless. These people also have had to face their pasts. In their situations it was to help those they love move forward in similar situations (not exact) to their own. It was to help them understand they are not alone in their situation and also to help them cope and learn. To stop a cycle, to get them to a better place in life, to love them through a transition, to keep them safe and to comfort them.

The moral of this story is to share with you that our pasts are there to learn from. To not only to help us grow, but also to pass on and to help others maybe not make the same mistakes. Our pasts are not a judgements of who we are. The things that “happen to us” as children are not our fault. Children cannot be held responsible for the decisions adults make, do not beat yourself up for anything that has happened to you as a child, that does NOT make you any less of a person. If anything, it makes you stronger because you have survived. The choices that we make as young adults may very well be our fault, but s*#t happens and life MUST go on.

As parents and grandparents, looking at our pasts and sharing the growth we have and the lessons (not the details) from those experiences allow us to be human and real in the eyes of “Tiny Humans” who may see us as super hero parents. Sometimes, these little people need to see that. They struggle too.

It’s ok to have a past that may not have been so perfect. It’s in the past and it cannot hurt us. The past made us the fabulous, strong, resilient people we are today. The past has taught us to survive, taught us to prevail, taught us to fight, to stand up if we have fallen, dust ourselves up and charge forward again.

It is important to remember, the rear view mirror is small for a reason. It is NOT meant to be stared into. It is meant only for a glance. The wind shield is large for a reason as well. It is meant to remind us to see far far into the future. On a country road, you can see for miles. You are only limited to what you set your own limits to.

March 28, 2019 1

When life gets in the way of your regularly scheduled program…

We will now return to your regularly scheduled program….. Hi friends and family! It’s me! Mrs. Go To Girl! I know, It’s been a hot minute since I’ve posted a blog so here I am being real about life.

My life has gotten in the way of my regularly scheduled program. My kids, my husband, my family and friends will all tell you I am a control freak. Yes, I do live by the seat of my pants when it comes to “ME”. But, when it comes to “them”, I usually plan the day-to-day life stuff down to the wire. The breakfast, lunch, dinner, homework, weekend activities, etc…. all planned. Who is going where? Who will be in town, and who is scheduled to leave? What bills are getting paid? What laundry needs to be done for which uniform or activity? All of it, carefully orchestrated like a magical symphony to keep a busy and active family running smoothly with very few hiccups.

But my life….. HA! Total train wreck on any given day. MY sister has always found this incredibly amusing. In my life and the careers I have had I have very literally planner large scale events to include thousands of people and they have gone off without a hitch, but can’t manage to schedule my own hair appointment and can manage to forget a prescription refill for two weeks past the due date! I am that lady who sees the blinking gas light and passes three gas stations before stopping for gas. Why do we do these things?

So here I am asking for your forgiveness in being remiss on staying on top of my blog posts. I will get back to enlightening you with my little quips and silly tips and tricks and thoughts on the world once again if you wish to read them. We shall return to the “regularly schedule program” as they say.

It’s funny how life get’s in the way. I suppose that’s a good thing from time to time. I think it means we are alive and living in the moment. I for one, know I do plan too much and need to embrace more adventures. Those who love me do joke about my “Grandma Adventures”, but I love the ones I get to take the kids on and I know one day they will out grow them so I want to soak them up while I still can.

Recently I have been so overwhelmed with life that even my husband noticed and he literally said “let it go”. So this is what I am attempting to do. I hope you will embrace this new choice with me. Yes I want my family to be healthy, make good choices, use good manners, be educated, and go far in life, but not at all costs. I most of all want them to be happy. Live in the moment. I want to lead by example. And this, I need to remember.

Have a happy day!

March 27, 2019 0

Resolutions… Let’s lighten them up

We all have the best intentions when we make resolutions. Go to the gym more, eat better, get to sleep earlier, wake up earlier, make more time for family, save more money, even invest in the future. Almost every year they are the same. This year I want to put a little spin on our New Year’s resolution list and add some humor. Below is a list of some pretty hysterical (and maybe a little honest) resolutions to tickle your funny bone and start your New Year off with a smile!

This year I will complete my New Year Resolution list I made in 2009!
Not to go to the gym on a day that ends in Y
I will do less laundry and use more deodorant
I will remember my password because it makes the IT department angry every time I ask them to reset it.
I will no longer consider an apple martini part of my daily fruit intake
This year I will actually maybe kind of sort of eat better.

Enjoy!

By the way… when in doubt, January is a practice month and you can always start again in February! Wishing everyone a safe and very fun 2019! Always remember to laugh at yourself first! Life is short, don’t take it to seriously, no one gets out alive!

January 3, 2019 0

Need a a little giggle?

I love to send corny jokes to my kids randomly. They are absolutely silly and usually completely random, but I know that they make my kids laugh inside, usually smile and they almost roll they eyes and say “oh mom!”. It’s the best. If nothing else, it makes me smile just to send them. I thought I would share some of these silly little snippets with you in case you find it in your heart to send a random message to your loved ones today…. just because. I promise, making someone “LOL” for no reason at all is the best!

Here are a few….

How do you make a tissue dance? (Put a little boogie in it)
Why is 6 scared of 7? (Because 7 8 9)
Why do some fish live in salt water? (Because pepper would make them sneeze)
Where do bees go to the bathroom? (The BP station)
Why did the picture have to go to prison? (It was framed)
Why is it impossible for your nose to be 12 inches long? (Because then it would be a foot)
Why did the physics teacher break up with the biology teacher? (There was no chemistry)
Why do the French like to eat snails? (They don’t like fast food)
Why is it a bad idea to insult an Octopus? (Because it is well-armed)
Why do cows wear bells? (Their horns don’t work)

I know this post is a bit corny, but who can’t use to be a little silly now and again. In today’s world we could all stand to lighten up and just laugh. Pass these along to someone in need of a smile instead of a frown and in case I haven’t mentioned it lately… Have a Happy day!

December 20, 2018 0

Christmas is for the birds…

Christmas is for the birds…. too! LOL! It’s cold outside and the birds and animals could use a holiday treat as much as the rest of us. Here is a great DIY project you can do as a family and enjoy the birds as they come to eat.

INGREDIENTS:

2.5 cups Birdseed
2 Packages Unflavoured Gelatin (2 Tablespoons total)
2 Tablespoons Corn Syrup
1 cup Water
Cookie Cutters (about 12 small ones are perfect. Using larger ones will cause the ornament to break from the weight)
Drinking Straws, cut into 2″ long pieces (Enough to have one in each ornament)
Twine

INSTRUCTIONS:

First, follow the instructions on the packet of Gelatin. If you are going to use two packets of gelatin, add 1/2 cup of cold water into a bowl, then pour the two packets of gelatin on top of the water.
Add 1/2 cup of boiling water to the mixture and stirred it until it was dissolved. (Making sure the gelatin is completely dissolved is important. Use the microwave if needed.
Once the gelatin is dissolved, add the corn syrup and stirred until it is dissolved as well.
Finally, add the birdseed to the gelatin mixture.
It will be a little watery at first. Place place the bowl in the refrigerator for about 10 minutes or so, or until it firms up enough that the liquid won’t seep out from under the cookie cutters.
Set your cookie cutters out onto a wax paper or parchment lined baking sheet.
Spoon the mixture into each of the cookie cutters, and press it down firmly so that the cookie cutter is completely filled. Fill the cookie cutters to the very top and press into the shape to ensure a complete fill with no gaps.
Next, cut your drinking straws into 2″ long pieces. Press a straw into the birdseed (before it’s set) so that you have a nice neat hole for the twine to go through afterwards. Be sure to place the straw a good distance from the edge to make sure the twine doesn’t break thru from the weight of the ornament.
Once you’ve added the straws, place the ornaments in the refrigerator overnight to solidify. The next day, gently pull the edges of the cookie cutter away from the shape to help separate things, then gently push out the shape.
Remove the straws, thread some twine through the holes and tie a knot.

When your ornament is complete, hang them in your trees outside and watch the birds gather. Be sure to hang your ornaments close to other branches so the birds can perch while eating.

You can refrigerate them or freeze them if not using right away. They last up to 1 years in freezer. You can also do this fun DIY project at other times of the year. Instead of Christmas cookie cutter ornaments, use a shamrock for St. Patrick’s day, egg shaped for Easter, Hearts for valentine’s day. The possibilities are endless!

A few notes about this a project so you are not disappointed in the outcome:

let the mold dry for at least a day before attempting to hang on the twine.
Be sure to hang these in cooler weather, as the Florida heat will cause the gelatin to melt and your ornament to fall.
If you are doing this project throughout the year, try substituting or adding peanut butter to your recipe.
Be sure to place the hole for the twine far enough away from the edge so it better disperses the weight and doesn’t break through the edge of the ornament.

December 15, 2018 0

A unique gift idea…. Family Adventures

Last year my husband and I were at a loss as to what to get our youngest son and his wife. They are very handy and very busy with two kids, jobs, and home projects. After watching their busy lives all year we came up with a unique gift idea.

A family adventure album. We bought a cute little scrapbook and filled that pages with gift certificates to all sorts of places. The pages were filled with family fun (and date night) ideas. Once we decided on the plan for the book, we went shopping… on-line and to the gift card aisle. Yep, it was a book of pre-purchased family adventures. Everything from a trip to the zoo, movie tickets, to ice cream nights (gift certificate for Dairy Queen), beach days (complete with gift certs to subway for lunches). On the trips that would take them a distance to get to, we added in gas cards. After all the point of this gift was not to add financial strain of accomplishing these adventures, but to make these things easy and obtainable for this kids (and gran kids) to do. This book was filled with all sorts of adventures from bowling to mini-golf to go kart racing.

To come up with ideas we scoured the internet to check out our local city and find fun interesting places to go. We also googled”date night” ideas to ensure they could enjoy time together without the kids. If you are thinking of giving a gift such as this, don’t forget the handmade gift certificates that include babysitting. It was a fun gift to make and a great way to get to know the city we live in.

I hope you think of a gift like this (or any variation of it) when you are planning your next celebration.

A twist on this concept is “Your year in review”. Make a scrapbook for your loved ones of their past year. This is a great idea for the little ones in your life. You can give it to them on each birthday as a memory of what they have accomplished in the past year. On the last page of the album make a list of that child’s goals for next year. This makes an amazing keepsake and helps each child accomplish things each year. Have fun! Happy gift giving!

December 14, 2018 0

Give the gift of time…

What do you get your kids as they get older? What do you give your spouse as the years pass on? What about grand kids when there are so many? Start a tradition in your family of giving the gift of time.

My mother has done this each year with my sister and I. Every Christmas we get a handmade gift certificate wrapped up that simply states, Good for one day with mom. The certificate is valid for one day and is to be used sometimes in the next calendar year. This is one of the best gifts because it ensures you get one full day without other family members, without other distractions, and you get to really enjoy the time with each other.

What do we do on these “Mom Days”? Good question. When we were smaller they could be anything from a nice lunch out, a beach day, or even just a fun day playing board games or cards. As we have gotten older, we have taken advantage of these days by trying new things, getting out of our comfort zones, or just being young again. My mom and I have taken a seq-way tour through a different city just an hour or two away. We have gone zip-lining, gone to a hockey game, even gone to see a psychic.

The point is, these special days can be shared with anyone who could use a break in life throughout the year. If you have busy schedules, giving this gift to your spouse could be worth its weight in gold. Take time out of your calendars this year and remember to enjoy the day or days with loved ones. You only get one chance at this life and you can’t take the “stuff” with you, so make memories together and experience all this wonderful world has to offer.

Note: If you decide to give this gift to a special someone this year, make it a tradition and do it every year. Make a point to try something new, take a trip on a tankful, or spend the day without the distraction of cell phones or electronics.

December 13, 2018 0

Have you heard of the “White Elephant”?

This time of year we all usually have lots of holiday parties to attend for our places of employment, friends and family. More than likely you have come to know the “White Elephant” gift exchange. It is also referred to as the “Yankee Swap” or “Dirty Santa”. There are tons of versions of this game / gift swap, but here are the simple rules:

Each player brings one wrapped gift to contribute to a common pool –
The organizer should provide information on what type of gift people should bring. There can be a theme for the gifts, a monetary limit for the amount or no rules at all.
Players draw numbers to determine what order they will go in.
This can be done by drawing numbers from a hat, order of arrival to the event, or the order can be set by the organizer prior to the event.
Players sit in a circle or line where they can see the gift pile.
Everyone should sit in the order in which they will take their turns.
The first player selects a gift from the pool and opens it. No hiding your gift! Everyone needs the opportunity to see it.
The following players can choose to either pick an unwrapped gift from the pool or steal a previous player’s gift. Anyone who gets their gift stolen in this way can do the same – choose a new gift or steal from someone else. A present can only be stolen once per turn, which means players who have a gift stolen from them have to wait to get it back. This rule doesn’t apply at the end of the game.
After all players have had a turn, the first player gets a chance to swap the gift he or she is holding for any other opened gift. Anyone whose gift is stolen may steal from someone else (as long as that person hasn’t been stolen from yet). When someone declines to steal a gift, the game comes to an end. NOTE: For this last “extra” turn, the swap rule from step 5 doesn’t apply. Players can keep swapping until someone decides to stand pat, or there are no other eligible people to steal from.

Sound like fun? It is! But let’s take a look at what makes a good White Elephant gift? It can meet one or all of the following criteria: Funny, Weird, or nice.

For the organizer, here are some tips:

Communicate – Make sure all guests attending are aware of the gift giving game and make sure they know to wrap their gift prior to arrival
Set limits – Help your guests out by providing a monetary limit such as $5 or $10. This keeps the game light and fun for all.
Allow for enough time for the game. – It’s no fun to be rushed at the end, that’s when the game gets good!

So where did this game originate? Well, I checked out Wikepedia and here is the answer: The term white elephant refers to an extravagant, but impractical, gift that cannot be easily disposed. The phrase is said to come from the historic practice of the King of Siam (now Thailand) giving rare albino elephants to courtiers who had displeased him, so that they might be ruined by the animals’ upkeep costs. While the first use of this term remains a matter of contention among historians,^[4] one theory suggests that Ezra Cornell brought the term into the popular lexicon through his frequent social gatherings as early as 1828.^[5]

Explanation provided by http://www.secretsanta.com is as follows:
The game derives its name from the term white elephant as defined by something of dubious or limited value or an object no longer of value to its owner but of value to others. Thus, in its basic form the game calls for people to bring “gag” gifts or gifts they received that they have no use for.

I hope you all enjoy your holiday celebrations with co-workers, family and friends! Happy gift giving!

December 12, 2018 0

Schedule “Me Time”

It happens to the best of us, life gets busy and as our schedules and “to do” lists get longer and busier, the time we take for ourselves tends to disappear. We feel like if we take time for ourselves we are neglecting our family, acting selfishly, or neglecting our responsibilities. This could not be further from the truth. Life is noisy. Life is busy. Life takes up so much of our energy. It’s understandable that every individual has different work situations that are unique to their field, but it important to remember that you don’t live to work. Sometimes, putting aside time for yourself may even prove to be the ideal catalyst to liberating yourself from all the struggles that are suffocating you.

Let’s take a look at what happens when we don’t take time for ourselves and some suggestions on how to avoid or change this situation:

Mental and Physical Exhaustion: people may experience mental fatigue, insomnia, confusion, poor concentration, depression, anxiety, and increased irritability when they do not take time to take care of themselves. Just like we need sleep, we need time out.
Resentments and anger build up:
The lack of time to yourself can cause you to build up resentments that can harm both you and your relationships. When you spend all your time filling other people’s cups, it’s likely yours will run empty. Sometimes, especially when we’re tired, we may become angry about giving so much.
Poor self-esteem develops:
Self-care and self-love are very much connected. If we truly love and care about ourselves, we would make the time to care for both our physical health and mental health. Sometimes a reluctance to make time for self-care can go deeper, to issues of self-worth and self-love.

Here is a quick list of ways to improve your “me time” and take better care of yourself on a daily basis:

Schedule it! – Make a meeting with yourself daily or weekly depending on the content of the meeting. Do you need a daily reprieve, or do you want to schedule an hour or two for a mani/pedi, exercise, or just to sit by the pool and read?
Make it count! – Don’t just “schedule” ten minutes a day or quiet time, make it quality time. Just as you would give your newborn child your undivided attention, you deserve your attention too!
Delegate tasks! – don’t let life get in the way. Don’t get bogged down with a long list of “to do’s”
Check your e-mail and social media feeds at delegated times – Are you attached at the hip to your smart phone? Put it down and schedule times that you will pick it up and review the latest updates.
Take 5! – Whenever you start to get overwhelmed or feel anxious, take 5 minutes to step outside and take a deep breath. Walk around your office or work space. there is no harm in taking 5 minutes to regroup.
Say no with dignity an grace – You do not have to accept every invitation to get together or take on every task given to you. Do not take on more than you can handle, and really take a long hard look at what you can realistically handle. Unless you are wearing a cape and tights, I’m pretty sure you are not a super hero.
Shower time is “your time” – This is one of the few times in your day that you can guarantee peace and quiet. Take advantage of it.
Purchase some aroma therapy products that you love and treat each shower like it is a spa getaway. Take some deep breaths and let the warm water wash away any tension that you were having.
Take the long way home – no matter how you get o and from work or your daily activity, take the scenic route and enjoy a little peace and quiet before switching gears to family and kids and responsibilities.

Keep in mind that carving out time for yourself is vital for keeping yourself healthy, and that means a happier family and more productive work and school life.

This blog posts was written in honor of my sister. She takes on the world everyday. She is strong, beautiful, smart, giving and many times forgets to take care of herself.

Live happily, Mrs. Go To Girl

December 11, 2018 1

What’s in your Christmas Stocking?

Christmas morning is always the greatest thing ever. Watching your family gather around the Christmas tree in their adorable holiday PJ’s and seeing the wide eyed kids marvel at all the gifts that appeared under the tree overnight. Did Santa eat the cookies they left out? Did they drink the milk? How did he get here and when? All the wonderment just minutes before your family rips into the oodles of fun gifts you (and Santa) have carefully wrapped for them this year.

What about the Christmas stockings? In our family, we wrap each gift found inside this special stocking. There is candy, gadgets, pretty hair bows, fun socks and much much more. In our family, we do stocking stuffers for kids and adults alike. I wanted to take a second as we are all working diligently on our holiday lists to give you a few fun stocking stuffer ideas for kids of all ages.

For little girls: Little girls and little boys have different ideas of what a great gift is. Here is a fun list of ideas for the little girl(s) in your life: Mini-toiletries such as hand lotion, soap, toothpaste, shampoo, conditioner, body scrub, etc., A small change purse, A gift card to her favorite store, A personalized mug (for tea or hot cocoa), Zipper pulls for her jackets or backpack, Comb and hairbrush set, Hair accessories such as barrettes, ponytail holders, scrunchies, headbands, ribbons, etc., Perfume samples (you can find these at department stores), Small, magnetic travel games. This list can go on and on, but be sure to not miss the classic (see below)

For Little boys: Along with the basics, the following are fun thing to drop in your little one’s stocking: Action figures and hot wheels, candy (Their favorite or even new fun candies), batteries (most likely they will need them this time of year and it’s always good to add it to their stocking), Pez Dispensers (This is and oldie but a goodie!), bike wheels LED Lights, prank gifts kids can play on each other (Whoopee cusion, fart boxes, disappearing ink pens). Don’t forget the classic items (see list below).

For the ladies in your life: Whether she is a wife, mom or grown daughter there are always classic favorites for ‘her’ stocking.
coffee gift cards from her favorite coffee bar, toiletries (peek in her cabinet to see what brands she likes), her favorite chocolates, candy or snack, portable power for her cell phone, room spray or perfume, cozy socks. And don’t forget the traditional items that are classics and should be in every stocking. (see that list below)

For the men in your life: Once the man in your life ages out of the novelty toys of his youth, it can be hard to know how to fill his stocking with things that are both neat and useful. Here is a quick list of ideas to get you started: Cologne, pocket knife, portable charger, tactical flashlight, money clip, cigars, mini bottles of liquor, funny socks and underwear. Of course don’t forget the traditional items that are classics… (see that list below)

“The Classics” – This is a list of those traditional stocking stuffers that are fun every year. They make the stocking complete. Now that you have your list for each indivual stocking in your family, don’t forget these classics….Sweet treats of all kinds, Games and toys (Silly puddy, slinkies, yo-yo’s, bouncy balls and bubbles), the bath basics (a new toothbrush and toothpaste, bathtub soaps and bath toys), a Christmas orange (you read that right!), money (gift cards work to for things like ice cream, etc.). These things are the basics you almost always find in your stocking. They can be changed slightly to be age appropriate but they are always useful and fun things to get each year.

In addition to the above (and they are suggestions, not a comprehensive list to check off). I highly suggest having one item in each stocking that is a family tradition. For me personally, I have a tradition each years with my daughter’s stocking. She is ALWAYS losing her lighters and each year for Christmas she finds lighters (lots of them) individually wrapped in her stocking. It’s a silly thing, but she can always count on her stocking having these in it to make her giggle Christmas morning (and to use all year).

Now that you have your list, ever wonder where the tradition of Christmas stockings and stocking stuffers began? After reading a lot on the subject, I want to share with you what https://people.howstuffworks.com/ has to say on the topic.

Hanging stockings over the chimney is an integral part of Christmas, and these oversized stockings are reserved for smaller gifts like candy and action figures. But why do we hang stockings anyway, and how did the tradition start?

Although most countries have their own variations on Santa, the oldest reference to St. Nicholas goes as far back as the third century. The ancient town of Myra, located in what is now modern Turkey, is home to a shrine dedicated to Bishop Nicholas. Over several centuries, tales spread detailing the benevolence and generosity of Bishop Nicholas, and this is where the idea of St. Nick as gift-giver began [source: BSU].

One of the stories, it turns out, involves Nicholas passing by the homes of maidens too poor to afford a dowry– money that a bride gives to her groom for their wedding. The bishop would throw gold coins down the chimneys of these maidens, where they would fall into stockings, which were hung over the fire to dry.

Dutch children take part in another tradition — one that may have directly influenced the North American practice of hanging stockings. The children leave wooden shoes out by the fireplace, which are filled with hay for Sinterklaas’s horse (the Dutch version of Santa Claus not only has a different name, but a different mode of transportation). Santa replaces the hay with gifts, and it’s thought that Americans adapted this tradition sometime in the early 19th century [source: BSU].

I wish you all (young and old) a very Merry Christmas and happy holiday season!

Have a happy day,

Mrs. Go To Girl

December 7, 2018 0

The Spirit of Christmas

As little children we are told of Santa Claus and get excited each year to think he is watching and we try our very best to be good little boys and girls. Seeing a child’s excitement Christmas morning when presents appear under the tree and the cookies they left out the night before are eaten and milk has vanished. Somewhere along the way as we grow into young adults, the mystery of Santa disappears and we stop believing. Why is this? Why do we let this magic of Christmas disappear?

I was speaking to my Grandson recently and learned he no longer believes in Santa and I was crushed. What about the Spirit of Christmas? He looked at me confused. We talked for a while about what Christmas means and why we give gifts. In our family, we believe in Jesus Christ and we celebrate his birth on December 25th. (Christmas!). This my grandson is clear about, but the spirit of Christmas is the magic that as kids, Santa brings. As adults, there is so much more to it. This is where “Santa” transitions into the “Spirit of Christmas”. This young time in our lives and into our adult years is when we learn, and many times we forget, what all of the little traditions at Christmas are really for. Why do we do all the things we do this time of year? Santa is a great way to start telling small children about all of the traditions of Christmas, but let’s not forget to transition this wonderful belief to a more adult understanding as our kids grow. Don’t let them lose the Spirit of Christmas, instead help them develop it into a magical feeling that they can lean on year round.

The Colors Red and Green

The color red is used at Christmas to represent the blood of Jesus when he died on the cross. Green is another popular color at Christmastime signifying everlasting light and life. Romans decorated their houses with evergreen branches during the New Year, and the fir tree symbolized life during the winter. There is also a legend that when Jesus was born in the dead of winter all the trees around the world shook off the snow to reveal new shoots of green.

The Bell

Bells are rung during Christmas to proclaim the arrival of the season and to announce the birth of Christ.

The Candy Cane

This treat represents the shape of a shepherd’s crook. Jesus, often referred to as the Good Shepherd, was born on Christmas. His birth was God’s way to bring lost lambs back to the fold. The red stripe represents blood, Christ’s sacrifice, and the white stands for his purity.

The Wreath

The wreath is a circular, never-ending symbol of eternal love and rebirth. Holly also stands for immortality and cedar for strength. Today the wreath symbolizes generosity, giving, and the gathering of family.

Gifts and a Bow

The men who brought their gifts to honor the birth of Jesus inspired the concept of giving gifts during the holiday. A ribbon is tied around a gift to represent how we should all be tied together in bonds of unity and goodwill during the holiday season.

The Christmas Tree

Regarding the birth of Jesus, the Gospel of John records, “Light has come into the world.” Jesus himself said, “I have come into the world as a light, so that no one who believes in me should stay in darkness.” Surely, it is appropriate that our Christmas celebration be filled with light as we celebrate Jesus, the “light of the world.”

And what about Santa Claus himself? here did the idea of “Santa” come from?

A Brief history of Santa Claus

Santa Claus was a real man. He lived about 400 years after Jesus. He was the Bishop of a church. He loved Jesus. Bishop Nicholas had a friend that had 3 daughters, but they could not get married because their father did not have the money for their dowries.So late one night, in secret, Bishop Nicholas threw 3 bags of gold into their living room. The bags landed in socks that were drying by the fireplace(thus the tradition of stocking hung by the fireplace). Later the Catholic Church made him a Saint, thus Saint Nicholas. The Santa Claus that we know today in America is a result of Clement Moore’s poem, The Night Before Christmas, written in the mid 1800’s.

December 4, 2018 0

Try a mocktail…

So many times at holiday parties there is a lot of alcohol served, but where does that leave those of us who don’t drink or even the littler ones that are attending and can’t partake of alcoholic beverages? Mocktails are a fun way to ensure everyone is included in the festivities. Here are a few quick recipes to ensure that all of your guests have a great time.

Cranberry Fizz:

Ingredients:

3 ounces of ginger ale, 3 ounces of cranapple juice, splash of lime juice, 3 tbsp sugar, 1/2 tsp of cinnamon completely blended, fresh lime

Instructions:

Combine the cinnamon and sugar in a shallow bowl and mix together well. Rub a lemon or lime around the rim of your glass and then dip into the sugar/cinnamon mix. Fill the glass with ice. Add then cranapple. Add a splash of fresh juice of lemon or lime. Top off with sparkling cider or ginger ale. Garnish with a twist of lime.

No-jito (A mock mojito):

Ingredients:

1 tbsp of sugar, small bunch of mint, 3 limes juiced, soda water

Instructions:

Muddle the sugar with the mint leaves (this can be done in a small bowl using the end of a rolling pin if you do not have pestle and mortar)

Split the mint mix between two tall glasses. Ad a handful of crushed ice to each glass. Split the juice of three limes between the two glasses. Top the drink off with soda water, add a straw and serve with a sprig of mint on the top for garnish.

NOTE: For fun you can add a few blueberries or raspberries to each glass. This adds some fun color and a little extra flavor to your drink.

November 30, 2018 2

Fun holiday recipes – Caprese sticks

It is fun to create colorful holiday snacks for a party. Here is a great recipe that can be served as a snack, an appetizer or even as a side dish if you choose. It incorporates the red and green colors of Christmas and is super easy to make. This recipe was found on https://www.delish.com/

Ingredients:

8 oz. mozzarella balls 2 tbsp., extra-virgin olive oil 1 tsp., Italian seasoning 1/4 tsp., crushed red pepper flakes, salt, cherry tomatoes, fresh basil leaves 1 c., balsamic vinegar

Instructions:

In a small bowl, stir together mozzarella, olive oil, Italian seasoning, crushed red pepper flakes, and season with salt. Set aside. (NOTE: if you or your guests are sensitive to spices, the crushed red pepper flakes can be left out of this recipe)
Assemble skewers: Layer a cherry tomato, basil leaf, marinated mozzarella ball, and another cherry tomato. Place on your serving platter. (NOTE: It is always fun to use herbs from your garden, here is a great opportunity to use that basil you have been growing all year. If not, this can be purchased at your local grocer)
Make balsamic glaze: In a small saucepan or skillet, bring balsamic vinegar to a low simmer. Let thicken until syrupy, 15 minutes. Set aside to cool and thicken. (NOTE: double or triple your recipe to keep some aside for later use. This is a great glaze and always good to top a salad. It’s great to have these things available for quick use)
Drizzle skewers with balsamic glaze and serve. (NOTE: you can make these caprese sticks as large or as small as you want depending on the size skewer (or toothpick) you select)

November 30, 2018 0

Fun holiday recipes – Bacon Cheese Ball Bites

This time of year there are so many holiday parties and we run out of ideas of fun things to bring or what to make for the parties we are hosting. Here are a few fun ideas to change up your holiday party planning.

Easy grab cheese ball bites:

Ingredients:

8 slices bacon (1 1/2 oz.), (8-oz.) blocks cream cheese, softened, shredded cheddar cheese (You can also use a mixture of cheeses for a different flavor), garlic powder 1 tsp., paprika, Salt, Freshly ground black pepper, freshly chopped chives 1/3 c., finely chopped pecans 1/2 c, pretzels sticks

Instructions:

In a large nonstick skillet, cook bacon until crispy, 8 minutes. Drain on a paper towel-lined plate, then finely chop. Set aside. (NOTE: If you make extra, you can always freeze the cooked bacon and pop it in the microwave later. It’s usually easy to just make the whole bacon package.)
Meanwhile, in a large bowl, stir together cream cheese, cheddar cheese, garlic powder, and paprika and season with salt and pepper. Use a scoop (some sort of small spoon works) to form mixture into 18 small balls and transfer to a parchment–lined baking sheet. Refrigerate until firm, 1 hour.
In a shallow bowl, stir together bacon, chives, and pecans.
Roll balls in bacon-chive-pecan mixture, insert a pretzel stick into each, and let come to room temperature 15 minutes before serving. (If not serving right away, loosely cover with plastic wrap and return to fridge.) (NOTE: So many times you can exchange a toothpick for a pretzel stick for a fun and yummy way to serve your appetizers or treats.)

……. This recipe was found on Delish.com

November 30, 2018 1

Forgive and grow…

So often we hold grudges or let the things that upset us on one day carry over into the next day, week, or even longer. I have learned a few things in life that are very important lessons:

Forgiveness is for us, not them
Holding onto anger only hurts us, not them
Negativity blocks personal growth

These lessons have helped me in so many ways and I want to take a moment to share them with you. In life I have learned to make amends with people that I have hurt or wronged and forgive those who hurt me. In an article written by the Mayo Clinic forgiveness is clearly outlined as to what it is and how to practice this.

“Forgiveness means different things to different people. Generally, however, it involves a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge.

The act that hurt or offended you might always be with you, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help free you from the control of the person who harmed you. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting or excusing the harm done to you or making up with the person who caused the harm. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life.”

There are important things to remember. Forgiveness doesn’t guarantee reconciliation and it doesn’t guarantee a change in the person you are forgiving. What it does do is allow you to move forward in your own life. It keeps this particular issue from creeping into other relationships. It releases you from the anger and bitterness you hold within when carrying a grudge or resentment.

So how do you “Forgive” someone? As defined by the mayo clinic, forgiveness is a commitment to a personalized process of change.” To do reach this state of mind there are several things you can do: :

Recognize the value of forgiveness
Identify what needs healing, who needs to be forgiven and for what
Consider seeking outside help to move forward (counseling)
Acknowledge your emotions and work to release them
Choose to forgive – it is a choice and a conscious decision
Move away from your role as victim – the person who has hurt or offended you does not control you or your emotions.

I have learned that no one can MAKE me feel sad or angry just as no one can MAKE me feel happy. These are choices. When I was a child and became angry or upset or even sad my mother would ask me to make a decision. She asked me to decide how long I wanted to feel that way. Maybe I wanted to be angry for an hour or even a day. Maybe I wanted to be sad for a few days. Either way, she would help me to set the time limit and at the end of the time limit, she would remind me of my decision to only be upset for the period of time and now I can choose a new feeling. This process has helped me so often in life. There are things I WANT to be upset about because I am not ready to process them and let go, but I realize I am only hurting myself.

Much like any addition we have, we use our feelings or substitute our feelings for actions such as drinking or something else. I learned that my addiction only allowed me to hide from my thoughts or feelings, but never made them go away and usually made them worse once the substance I used wore off. Facing my feelings and the issues I faced head on was much easier in the long run.

Many times our closest family and friends can cause us the most concern or worry. We love them the most and as humans we “want what we want” but cannot control what others do or say. So here we are with confused feelings that can lead to hurt relationships with those we love the most.

With forgiveness also comes acceptance. Forgiving someone also means you must accept that they are who they are and your forgiveness doesn’t require them to apologize or even change. That’s ok. Just remember if the person’s actions or words do not change, you are not required to keep them in your inner circle or even in your life.

Choosing to allow someone in your “world” is a choice only YOU can make. Not making a choice to change, walk away, or allow continued behavior is still a choice. You are responsible for yourself.

Love, Happiness, Joy, Anger, Hurt, or sadness are all things you have the ability to control and you can choose to feel these things or not.

As you let go of grudges, you’ll no longer define your life by how you’ve been hurt. You might even find compassion and understanding.

In the end, you have the ability to forgive. You have the ability to change yourself and your own actions. We all deserve good days and happiness in our lives, but these are things we must decide to obtain.

November 29, 2018 0

Learning to let go

Learning to let go is a hard lesson to learn but oh so important. So often we get bogged down with a mile long list of “to do’s” and follow that with a busy schedule, a long list of people (friends and family) that crown our minds with their own issues and you have the perfect recipe for anxiety, stress, and an overall sense of doom if you’re not careful.

It happens to the best of us and far too often. We let our inbox fill up and sit there staring at it not even sure where to start. This is where “letting go” comes into play. I have two thoughts to share with you:

My dad always told me that even after you are dead and gone, people will still put things in your “inbox”, the trick is to focus on what is important and don’t worry about all the small stuff.
There is only one way to eat an elephant and that is one bite at a time. Even when your lists of things to do and places to be pile up…. in the end you can only be one place at a time and do one thing at a time. Sure there is the novel idea of multi-tasking, but a task done right deserves your full attention.

So where does this leave us? Yep…. sorting through our mess and figuring out what to let go of. We can’t do it all and we can’t be everywhere all the time. You know I love lists and here is your turn to make your own. There are two lists that you need:

List of priorities in life
Current list of things to do (this is a daily list)

The first list (Priorities) is the most important and will help you keep perspective when making your daily list. The priorities list is one that stays fairly constant and only changes when major life events happen. (The birth of a child, a marriage, a divorce, or even a death). This is a list of who, what and where your personal priorities are. I will give you an example of my list to kick off your thought process (This is by no means the same list you will have, but you get the idea).

My Sobriety
God
My family
My job
…… this list can go on, but the first four are the most important to me.

The order you make the list is also important. As you can see from my list, my sobriety is #1 on the list. I am currently 15 1/2 years sober. God willing, I will be 16 years sober and counting. This is a choice I have made in my life and live this choice one day at a time. It is at the top of the list because without it, I lose sight of my faith, crush and ruin my family and will ultimately lose my job. #2 on my list is God. For me a solid faith in a Higher Power comes before my family. Without my faith in God and the ability to trust in him, I fall to pieces. Faith can move mountains and my life is proof of that. #3 is my family. My husband, my children, my grandchildren, my parents and siblings. I am blessed with an enormous, loving family. It is my priority to show up and be present for them. They are my rock when I waiver in various areas of my life and they keep me grounded. Finally, my job is on the list. I work to live, I do not live to work. I need to place importance on my job in order to provide support to my family and to be an active member of society.

This is just an example of a list (that happens to be mine). With this list in place, I can build my daily “to do” list. It is a daily activity because as we all know, life throws us curve-balls all the time. The order of this list, the contents, and the length of the list changes daily. It is supposed to. IF it was always the same, I fear we would lead very boring lives. Here is an example of my “to do” list:

Exercise – usually done first thing in the morning, but a daily goal for my physical and mental health
Get my grandson ready for school – I have made a commitment to my family to be the best mom / grandma possible and helping this little guy out is very important to me.
Work (Work has it’s own “To Do” list of course, but I try to keep that list confined to the hours spent at the office.)
Spend time with my husband – He and I have completely different schedules when it comes to work and this keeps us missing each other if we aren’t careful. When I married this man, in my wedding vows I promised to make him a priority in my life. I keep this promise by making sure he is on my daily list. Even if it is a simple shared cup of coffee or a walk on the beach holding his hand, that is very special quality time.
….. this list can go on, but you get he point.

Sometimes there are other task involved. Do I need to call the doctor and make an appointment? Do I need to stop by the store on may home and pick up groceries? Do I need to go to a meting in the evening or do I have plans to meet up with a friend? All of these go on the list and the list is ever changing.

Once my lists are complete, the next thing to do is step back and take a look at the size of my “elephant”. The only way to get things marked off my list is to put the list in order and then ready set go! One thing at a time. One task, one errand, one little tiny goal to be accomplished.

Sometimes life can feels like it is only tiny goals and the milestones are never hit. When that feeling creeps in and your lists begin to overwhelm you that is when it is time to take a step back. DO a little inventory of your life over the past month, year, or several years. See where you have made major progress and take time to celebrate. The little voices in our heads can so easily get us down on ourselves. Are you climbing the corporate ladder fast enough? Are you the best mom or dad you can be? Are you keeping up with bills and chores? When stepping back to look at life for a brief moment, realize a few things…. your lights are on, your able to keep warm when it’s cold out, you’re able to reach out to your family when you need to, you’re able to eat a good meal or even enjoy a fun time with friends. This must mean you are doing things right. Do you have a place to lay your head at night? You did that (by working, paying bills, and being present in life). Do you have people who love you? You did that (by being present in their lives too when they needed you). I could step back at your life and tell you how wonderful it is, but that isn’t what you need. You need to give yourself a pat on the back for making the good decisions that got you to the age you are. A little hug now and then for not giving up. Trust me, giving up may many times seem like the easiest thing to do, but don’t give up before the miracles happen. You will miss out on the most beautiful thing yet to come.

I will close with this… When your list is long and life seems overwhelming, break it down. If the lawn doesn’t get owed today, it will be there tomorrow and maybe then your list will be shorter. Base your daily list on your priorities list. For me, it is a gut check on the strength of my sobriety. It is a moment to pray and thank God for his blessings and ask for his will in my life. It is a call to my kids and a stolen glance with my husband even on the busiest of days. These are the top three things on my list. The rest is just “stuff”.

Written With Love,

Mrs. Go To Girl

November 28, 2018 1

Homemade Apple Cider, great for fall

Nothing says fall like homemade Apple Cider. It is fun to make your own, tastes great and makes your home smell amazing. Here is a great recipe to try and share. Alter it to make it your own. This is a great beverage to have on hand for cool fall and winter evenings, family gatherings, and of course holiday dinners!

Ingredients:

10 Gala Apples – Quartered

3/4 Cup White Sugar

1 Tablespoon Ground Cinnamon

1 Tablespoon Ground all spice

Note: you can float a few whole cinnamon sticks on top for extra flavor or add them at the end for garnish, also adding extra spices like cloves or the zest of a lemon will spice up your cider depending on your preference.

Instructions:

Place apples in a large stockpot and add enough water cover by at least 2 inches. Stir in sugar, cinnamon, and allspice. Bring to a boil. Boil, uncovered, for 1 hour. Cover pot, reduce heat, and simmer for 2 hours.

Strain apple mixture though a fine mesh sieve. Discard solids. Drain cider again though a cheesecloth lined sieve. Refrigerate until cold.

Note: I prefer to serve my cider warm. If you prefer the same you can always make this in advance and set it on warm in a crock pot. Add some cinnamon sticks or Star of Anise to the once in the crock pot as a great garnish.

October 17, 2018 1

Change your mood by adding some color

Did you know colors could affect your moods, feelings and behavior? There have been many studies done on how exactly colors can affect us and of course, you must take into account your personal culture and experiences. There is a great article found on www.verywell.com about this very subject where the psychological effects of color are examined.

To keep it simple, think of your own life situations. Does the color blue make you think of calm and cool things? Does the color red trigger a sense of urgency or excitement? Have you heard the saying “Green with Envy”? Either try adding colors into your décor at home or work to adjust your moods. This little “life hack” can also be used in the business world for marketing purposes.

How do people respond to different colors? Take a look at the list of colors below and possible effects and reactions:

Black: Used in fashion as a slimming quality and with formal wear. Is associated with death or mourning. It is associated with villains and evil characters in films.

White: Many people associate white with purity or innocence. Bride wear white as do small children for religious ceremonies. It is also associated with being sterile, clean, and adding space.

Red: Red evokes a lot of emotion. It is associated with love, power, anger, and intensity. In fashion, it is usually a bold statement of confidence and self-acceptance.

Blue: In general, blue provides a calm serene feeling. It can even make you feel a cooler temperature at times when used in décor. It also represents sadness as an emotion.

Green: Green symbolizes nature and health. IT also symbolizes luck, money and jealousy. It is thought to relieve stress, be a sign of fertility and growth.

Yellow: This color is bright, cheery and warm but can be the most exhausting due to its brilliance of color. Yellow can increase metabolism as it increases your energy level but can also increase your frustration levels. It is a very attention grabbing color.

Purple: A sign of wealth and royalty due to it being hard to find in natural settings and frequently requiring dyes and a great deal of effort to obtain the color. This color is often perceived as mysterious and even spiritual.

Brown: Brown is a sign of strength, reliability, security, and safety. Brown can bring to mind conventional and natural dispositions.

October 16, 2018 0

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