Have you ever wondered what the world would be like without the words “I love you” or “I’m sorry”? Without being able to say “I’ll fix it” or “I’ll make it up to you”? Have you ever wondered what the world would be like if we all “spoke” without ever saying a word. No sign language, because after all, those are still words. But actually not using those phrases or anything similar to those at all? Here it comes my friends, another challenge! Valentine’s day is right around the corner. New Year’s has come and gone, and I suspect some of us may have already fallen short on a few resolutions. So here is my February Challenge for everyone. Try speaking without words. You read that right!
I’m asking you to try to learn all of the different languages of love that are out there. Try “doing” instead of “saying”. Is it a smile instead of a frown? Is it a gesture of making the bed or actually hanging up the towel or folding the laundry that catches your partner’s eye and lets them know you heard them? Is it showing up maybe five minute early to pick up your child so you can see their face light up that you took time out to put them first instead of being the last to pick them up? (It does make a difference.) Is it remembering what a favorite meal is for breakfast or adding a note in a lunch box or writing a note in the mirror from the steam of the shower? The point is to slow down and not make excuses or high five in the hallway this month with the traditional kiss goodnight and “I love you”. Please try to figure out what makes your friend and family feel special or make them feel like you heard them and DO THOSE THINGS. I promise, it comes back ten fold in happiness on all levels.
I will give you a hint (and a glimpse into my life). Even setting up the coffee in the morning for your spouse so they just have to turn on the machine goes a long way. My husband does this for me and every morning it starts my day with a huge smile because I know in his morning rush, he took a few minutes to think of me when he didn’t have to. He measures out the cream and sugar and puts the K-cup inside the Keurig so that all I have to do is press the button. He even puts the spoon inside the cup to remind me to stir. Every single morning, he manages to melt my heart without saying a word.
I hope this challenge pays off for you and everyone you try it with. As always my friends, have a happy day!