As I was driving into work this morning I was listening to a radio show that was right on target with exactly what I believe. They were discussing negativity as it relates to social media and in life in general. The example given by the radio host was this: “If you post a picture of a slice of pizza, comments back should pertain to the slice of pizza. How can there be much negativity surrounding the pizza?” Potentially, there may not be fans of the topping flavors and that is acceptable banter between friends of course, but this is not a platform for a political ambush. Would you agree? Well, I do!
A long time ago a good friend offered me a bit of advice. Surround yourself with positivity and let the negativity pass you by. Step aside and let it go whenever you can. Negativity is everywhere and it is so much easier for us all to go so quickly to the darker side of things so take a moment anytime you can, to find the silver linings in all of life’s little situations. Your life will be better for it. I’ve started doing this years ago. I personally have battled levels of depression at times in my life for various reasons and this advice has truly helped me battle through. Obviously I subscribe to many platforms of social media and I have a hard and fast rule for all of my connections; If you post three negative things back to back, I will disconnect from you. This does not mean I don’t want to associate with you. It doesn’t mean I don’t like you. It means that when reading my social media feeds, I prefer them to be positive. Constant negativity is not what I choose to allow to filter through. Once or twice is understandable and I want to share in the lives of my friends, but continuous complaining or bashing is a no go for me.
Think about it. When you turn on the news, read the paper, even drive down the road and read signs… is the news 80% happy? 70% happy? even 60% happy? If the answer is no, then all of this negative information is being inserted into your brain and into your heart for you to filter through and process. I’m not saying we should block out the news of the world and live sheltered lives where there are only unicorns and rainbows. I am saying that it is up to us to see the wild flowers growing in the median and notice their beauty. It is up to us, to see the ducks and their babies floating in the retention pond and maybe stop to feed them once in a while on a lunch break. Enjoy the beauty and the world around us. Giggle out loud when we see something funny. Take a moment and think about yourself. Do you walk around with a smile on your face generally or do you frown? This is how the world sees you. Have you ever thought of that? This is how your children see you as they glance across the room. Are you a general happy person? Or have you allowed too much negativity to turn your child-like smile to a more permanent frown?
I will admit, I am a hippie at heart and if I could fill everyone’s day with a happy thought, start everyone’s day with a smile and a hug I absolutely would. But I can’t. It is up to each of us to remember to hold the door for a stranger, smile at the cashier, say please and thank you, but most importantly, care for our own precious souls and ensure they are positive ones, always. Please remember if you have little children, they are watching you always and they see you when you don’t think they are looking. Even as they get older, they are still watching you and learning from you. Please be a positive, happy role model for our future and keep the positivity flowing.
As always, have a happy day.